The Cost of Functioning

The Cost of Functioning

The One-Sentence Ask

Ask for one specific thing, from one person, at one time.

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Lauren Tobey
Oct 28, 2026
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The One-Sentence Ask: a 6-page printable tool for paid members.

“Let me know if you need anything” is kind. It also hands the hardest part right back to you.

This tool turns asking into one sentence: one task, one time, one person. You’ll build your own ask, write scripts for the real people in your life, line up a steady person for one hard event, and know what to do when the answer is no.

It grows out of Chapter 7 of When You’re Too Numb to Cry, with room to write your own versions.

Start with something small. One ask counts.

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